Friday, September 4, 2015

Tenderness and Kindness are Not Signs of Weakness

Being in a relationship, or a part of a relationship, is a broad term. There are many different types of relationships that you will experience in life. Some relationships are by choice, some you are born or marry into, some are in passing (people you meet on the street, checkout lines in the grocery store, or sitting at a Starbucks), and others are fleeting moments in time.

Two people that share communication in any form, have an interpersonal relationship. Any person with whom you share communication, whether face-to-face, anonymously over the Internet, a stranger you pass on the street or the neighbor next door, defines the meaning of interpersonal relationship.

A close association between individuals who share common interests and goals is a relationship. Not all relationships are romantic.


Aristotle once declared that "Friendship is a single soul dwelling in two bodies." It is the most unselfish of all love, for it seeks only the happiness and good of the other.

Friendship is a relationship that individuals enter into by choice. Just because you know someone does not necessarily mean that you are friends with them. You can converse with someone and just be acquainted with them. Friendship is mutual. It's a decision between two people.

Friendship is a relationship where formalities don't exist. It's a natural feeling between people where they feel they can be who they are without fear of judgment. It's an arena where individuals truly enjoy being in the presence of each other. Friendship can be between man and woman, man and man, or woman and woman.

Friendship is a unique and personal entity, and is different from person to person. Friendship is a relationship in which two people often share openly and equally with each other, it takes time and effort to build up a friendship. It is common in friendships to share moments of happiness, joy, grief, fear, and the list goes on. Honesty is the single most important component to a friendship because it creates trust. Honesty helps to build feelings of being connected. Honesty helps build loyalty. A friend does not always tell the other what they want to hear, but will always tell one what they need to hear. Friendship is not one-sided. An individual is not going to confide their deepest, darkest secrets to someone whom they don't trust.

Not everyone is going to be a friend, but they can still care about the happiness of others, though probably not as much as they care about their own. If you are true friends, you will care as much for the other as you do for yourself. A true friend laughs with one, not at one, and will always be there when needed.

Love Relationship:

Love, also categorized as the romantic relationship, is a relationship characterized by passion, intimacy, trust and respect. Individuals in a romantic relationship are deeply attached to each other and share a special bond. They know each other's secrets, their wants, their desires, strengths, weaknesses...

Platonic Relationship:
When you have a relationship/friendship between two individuals who share no feelings or sexual desire for the other, that is called a platonic relationship. In this kind of relationship, a man and a woman, or same sex individuals, are just friends and do not mix love with friendship. There is no romance associated with this type of relationship, and the individuals do not want to be seen as a couple. They are quick to define themselves as just friends. Now, in some cases platonic friendships might end in a romantic relationship where both individuals develop a mutual love and attraction for each other.

Family Relationship:

We don't chose our family, we are born into it, unless of course you have a family member that is adopted. With family, there are individuals you have strong bonds with, some you never speak to, and others you will never meet. Your relationship in regards to your family is a bond of blood.

When you get married, or even seriously involved in a relationship, you will acquire a whole new family, and you will build relationships with those family members.

Professional Relationship (Work Relationship):

All people working together for the same company are said to have a professional relationship. Those individuals sharing a professional relationship are called colleagues. Colleagues may or may not like each other, but they still have to work together for the sake of the team.

The professional relationship is circumstantial. You are acquaintances through a workplace. These types of relationships have the potential to build into strong friendships, but that is often determined by how much time you spend with the individual. Pressure under fire has a way of bringing people closer together, and when you are constantly working as a team, you tend to bond with the people you work with.

Work friends can often be seen hanging out with each other, sitting close to each other during meetings, eating lunch together, and socializing after work. They are the ones that fill our social needs while we are at our job.