Saturday, September 19, 2015
A Good Head and a Good Heart are Always a Formidable Combo
2. I love everything about music, and my favorite tunes tend to be the heavier, edgier kind. It's the music that motivates me the most when working out. When I am exercising, I can't listen to slow music or love songs, they don't have the right rhythm to keep me moving. I prefer metal because it gives me energy while I'm running. When I'm writing, I tend to prefer something more in-line with what I'm writing about. If I'm writing a break-up scene, I listen to songs about breaking up. If I'm writing a love story or a dating scene, then I'm going to listen to love songs. I listen to what I am feeling in the moment to help put me in a mood. When I am in the right frame of mind, I find it much easier to write a scene. I listen to music most of the day, every day, and do not consider myself a music snob. I can listen to just about anything, with a few exceptions.
3. I will write about you. If I get to know someone and find personality traits that would make for a great character, I will, from my observations, create a character who acts in a similar manner. It is not my being disrespectful to any person. I use real life experiences to help develop characters. They say you write what you know, and I have a tendency to do just that, with a whole lot of creative freedom mixed in. They also say every character you write has a tiny amount of the author in them, that is also true to a point.
4. I’m 5’9″. It's a question I get asked quite frequently. For the longest time I thought I was 5'6” until the doctor who measured me pointed out that I was not. I still feel bad for all those guys who told me they were 5'10” or 5'11” and I told them they were wrong. I couldn't see much difference in our heights. Turns out I should have been measured before I opened my mouth because I had apparently had a growth spurt and didn't realize it. Oops… My roommate is 5'6” and you can see a considerable difference in our heights. I can and do admit when I'm wrong.
5. As a woman, I believe in women's rights, and I would fight hard to protect them if I felt they were being threatened, but I am not a feminist. PETA is obnoxious, and I don't agree with their methods of getting their point across. I don't support them, or any organization that acts in a similar manner. Throwing paint on someone borders on assault, and they definitely destroy property. I pretty much dislike any overly radical organization. I believe in rights, but I can also see when certain groups take things too far. You should be an advocate for causes you believe in, but not in a manner that steals the rights of another individual.
6. When going out with a guy, I will let him pay for the first couple of dates. It's a way to gauge how he's going to treat me if I date him long term. After the initial first few dates, I'll want to pay. I believe in equality. I don't believe a guy should always pay when I feel like going out. I don't feel like I should always pay when he feels like going out. I employ the take turns method. I believe that if you are going to date someone both parties should be involved in the dating process.
7. When it comes to using terms like 'lol' or 'omg' on my social media posts or text messages, I am not a fan, but I find that when I don't use them some individuals take my messages to mean something more than what I intended them to mean. Words are hard to decipher unless you are the writer. Terms like lol are meant to lighten the mood, and while I don't care to use the acronym, I will in order to keep my messages from sounding cold or aloof.
8. I do not drink often, and do not find drinking to the point of getting drunk to be appealing. I have never been drunk in my entire life and I pretty much want to keep it that way. I'm not sure how anyone finds any enjoyment out of waking up on the bathroom floor after having spent the entire night puking their guts out. I don't like throwing up when I'm sick so I can pretty much guarantee I won't be purposely inflicting it upon myself.
9. I like winning, but I am not competitive. I don't get overly excited when I win, and I don't get upset when I lose.
10. I am an awful dancer. I, however, find dance to be a beautiful, artistic expression, and am quite jealous of those who dance with such ease. I have always wanted to take dance lessons, but I'm not really sure that I would go out dancing even if I knew how to do it. I'm not a club girl. Still, learning to dance is an item on my bucket list.
11. I get shy and quiet around large groups of people, regardless of if I know them or not. I'm friendly when meeting new people, but a room full of people exhausts me. Especially a crowded room, and that's mainly because I end up feeling claustrophobic. It's the introvert part of my personality that causes me to shy away. I'm not a fan of crowds, and it's best if you are going to introduce me to new people, you do it slowly. On the flip side of this, when I was working retail and when I tended bar, I had no problem with customer service. Being around the guests never bothered me because I took it as part of my job responsibility. I have a suck it up and get the job done personality. I take my job seriously, and am proud of the work I do. With customer service, you meet people for the moment, and then they disappear. It was never an exhausting experience for me to talk to them because I knew I'd never see them again, and I was fascinated by the stories they were telling me.
12. We live in a world where text messaging is the way of communicating. Don't freak out if I don’t answer a message immediately. Sometimes I have my phone near me, sometimes I don't. I am not attached to technology, with the exception of the computer, because I make money writing articles for on-line use. If I wasn't making my living on the computer, I wouldn't be attached to that either. I sometimes deliberately ignore text messages when I am trying to get something done, or when I am at work. Sometimes I forget to grab my phone or leave my phone in the car. If I don't respond, you should assume I'm nowhere near my phone, and I probably haven't seen my messages.